Keeping Your Balance

Are You Out of Balance?

EVERYONE has issues. Some of these are obvious and others not so much. What is universally true for all people is that what they do with their issues is totally up to them. You can’t fix them. How about you? What you do with your issues is totally up to you. It-is-up-to-you. Let that sink in. Observers can see the need, show you the need, but they can’t change you or the problem. The proverbial, you can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink

The trouble when we ignore the problem, hope it gets better on its own, is it doesn’t. You have to address the issue. It is up to you to put forth the effort, learn what you can, and determine to stay the course. Speaking from experience, it is so easy to get side-tracked. I get on a kick and go after it gung-ho, but after a couple of months, I let up a little here and a little there. Before I know it, I am almost back to where I started.

I am not happy with myself when I get out of balance in any area of my life. Of course things happen that over-stress the system and have to be worked through little by little. Some things we can’t control, say, like the Caronavirus. Even with that there are areas that we do control such as whether to follow the recommended guidelines.

Speaking of health, taking care of one’s health is not only wise, it is spiritual. Balanced health includes health in physical, mental, spiritual and emotional aspects of being. Ignore one area and it affects all other areas. Kind of like how food issues, too much or too little, bingeing on unhealthy foods or barely eating, lead to health being compromised. You can’t do that for long without it impacting your overall physical condition.

Self Evaluate

When we get out of whack we begin to see discrepancies popping up. We say one thing but do another. To keep in balance one has to self evaluate. You learn to take stock of your whole self. You will zoom out to take a bird’s eye view of yourself and what goes on in your world. Like putting numbers and facts on a ledger, you will sort by putting your positives and negatives in separate columns.

There’s something very freeing in this. You stop running away, stop avoiding the problem, begin taking ownership of the stuff in your life–both now and the things in your past–and you learn ways to deal with it. You become proactive in your spiritual life. This affects all areas in your life. Everything connects to everything, both in-house and relational. Your life impacts other lives. The healthier you are the more dynamic you become in your relationships

A Balanced Perspective

I’ve been rereading The Truth about Beauty written by Kat James. She was unhealthy in her teens and twenties from a food addiction. When the doctor said her liver was damaged and was ready to prescribe medication, she decided to do some research (pre-internet days) before going that route. She was already dealing with her emotional issues by sorting through her triggers and negative messages from the past.

While looking in the mirror one day, she saw the person she had become–overweight, plagued with skin issues, liver troubles, unwell, unhappy. She felt an overwhelming sadness for all that her real self had been through. Her wishes died that day. She quit lying to herself and accepted her ‘wounded,’ struggling self. A form of peace entered at the thought. It became her moment of truth and the start of her transformation, which she did through non-medicated, natural means. (That’s her on the book cover nine years after her transformation.)

A Balanced View of Yourself

This is going to take some work, it always does. No pain, no gain. The gain is worth every bit of effort one puts into it.

Start Here

  1. First, take an objective look at yourself.
  2. Second, begin to work on what you can do on your own.
  3. Next, give the other stuff to God and ask for His help.
  4. Then, God helps you deal with what is out of balance.
  5. Last, begin the process again in another area that needs attention.

Imagine you are in gymnastics’ class. You are on the balance beam, striving to keep upright and get through your routine. You notice what is a little sloppy or off balance. Your coach makes a few suggestions. Then you address it and move forward. To adjust your spiritual balance is a process of dependence on God for the enabling, and dependence on yourself for the initiative and carry-through. For those practically-perfect people like Mary Poppins, I suggest they ask God to reveal to them whatever is not so perfect.

God knows us better than we know ourselves.

Why You Should Care

The things that trip us up the most are related to ‘out of balance’ areas, whether they are activities we engage in, false expectations of ourselves and others, thought patterns that are destructive, or related to our spiritual condition. They can be anything that is hindering your life and not under the control of the Holy Spirit.

When you become healthy and whole, your life has more joy, promise, hope, and life to it. You become a blessing to others for your life graces them with its sunshiny beauty and radiance from God. Who wouldn’t want that? And yes, it is possible for anyone. It is possible for you.

God is ready, willing, and waiting to help you.

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THE LOVING: The Second Stage of Spiritual Life

Spiritual Life Stage 2

THE LOVING

THE KNOWING from the last blog post, here, is the foundation for all things spiritual. A butterfly cannot become a butterfly without first living as a caterpillar. Reading Scripture, praying, studying God’s word, and following his teachings are all part and parcel to this basic understanding of believing the gospel of Christ and following Christ.

I believe most Christians live on this level and are content to stay here without going further still. Why? I think most Christians believe this is all there is. They don’t know more could be had, or they’ve been told to be suspicious of anything else. Another reason might be lack of interest, or another, a lack of ambition, or for want of effort. It’s not a deal breaker, for this isn’t about salvation of your soul.

But why wouldn’t you want more if you know there is more to be had?

THE LOVING

and How it Happens

Suffering has a way of taking you to new places spiritually; things like, you can’t do it, or you’re exhausted, you’ve been hurt, suffered a loss, or maybe you just want more in your spiritual life. These and the plain old desire to learn more can initiate a new search in a different area of spiritual life.

You want to know God. You want to know if God is enough. You crave authenticity in your spiritual being. You’re dissatisfied and feel somewhat incomplete or fake inside.

This is when you are moving into Stage 2, the transformation: A place where you begin to seek God to know him, and begin to have the mind of Christ, as Scripture says.

Whether at a dark place, a suffering state, or a seeking openness, you are ready to be  open and honest with God. You are going to a new level, no longer are you satisfied with ho-hum Christian living. Simply put, you want more. If this search is honest, real, and full of intention, I believe you will receive what you’re searching for.

TRANSFORMATION (During true seeking)

  • God comes close.
  • He enters your thoughts.
  • He gives you insights you didn’t have before.
  • His Spirit is transforming you to be more like Christ

THE COCOON

A Different Kind of Transformation

You’re that caterpillar in the chrysalis that’s transforming into a butterfly. No one on the outside can see what’s happening on the inside. This is a totally private undertaking. Not something you talk or brag about. It’s a quiet growing in an ever deepening awareness of God’s love, and of Christ’s sacrificial and all-encompassing love. You are becoming aware of the still small voice of God as he communes with you in your spirit. Spiritual love floods your whole being. The more you know God, the more you know love and experience love’s effects. It’s an amazing duality of you in God and God in you, words fail me to explain this adequately.

The Christian believer’s path has a destination and a purpose fueled by redemptive love. When you were lost in unbelief, you didn’t know what you didn’t know. Once you knew and responded to Christ, it empowered you.

It is in the knowing that you receive. It is in the believing that you are changed. It is in the loving that you begin to heal of the past, become free in the spirit, and more fully alive in your soul. And you begin to love differently than before. What God is doing inside you he is also preparing for you to share outwardly.

BECOMING FREE TO LOVE

A Natural Process of Christ Living in You

Love begets love. A seed of love sprouts in the heart then matures to a health-building, living organism that is strong, pure, humble, life-enriching, and whole. Love seeks not its own, and it cannot be silenced. Powered by Christ-love, this kind of love, by nature of its source, can’t help but love the unlovely and care for the poor, needy, and unlovely, and outcast…and the souls of all people.

A TRUE STORY

What Happens when You Get Serious About Living It

Three years ago I made a new friend when another church merged with my church. I was leading women’s ministry at the time. At our first WM meeting after the merger, I explained the functions of WM, some of our projects, and our purpose–to love God with heart, mind, and soul, and our neighbor as ourselves. One of the new ladies talked with me and offered her services to help with one of the projects.

Long story short, this woman had a lot of baggage and struggle in her life, but she had a heart for God and a keen mind for applying Scripture. We began meeting regularly and have continued to this day. Two summers ago she experienced a family wound that was unbelievable and has never remedied. But she grew and didn’t blame God.

A couple of weeks ago we had dinner at my house and she said something like this, “I’m so different now. God is so close. I sense his being with me, helping me. I wish I had known I could have this kind of relationship with Christ.” She has this inner glow and her walk with God is life-giving. Yes, she still struggles, but WOW.  She now has the tools to make it and stand on her own two feet.

That’s what I’m talking about, tapping into the closer walk with God. This includes being known by God and his transformational love.

The next post is about LIVING. Knowing and Loving are the two stages before Living. Both steps are taken before the beautiful butterfly emerges to fly free.

Access next stage here: THE LIVING: The Third Stage of Spiritual Life