The Gay Thing Does Matter

Why or Why Not

These days I watch a few favorite YouTube videos. I have my favorites which includes Becket Cook. Now, most are all over the country but Becket Cook is from southern Cal. He lives in the Hollywood district and used to work in the movie industry. The most notable thing about him is that he was a gay from a Catholic family and became a born-again Christian in 2009. Then he went to Biola University for training in biblical concepts. He now has guests on YouTube. I think he does a phenomenal job at presenting Christ to a highly skeptical crowd.

His Training

While he was a gay and active as a gay, he saw no reason to go to church or even follow the faith. He knew his life was immersed in the homosexual community. The church at that point mainly suggested that homosexuals get their life right with God and then they could come to church. Now this has changed in some churches. Lots has changed. One day he saw some young Christians with a Bible at a cafe. He asked them what they were doing. They answered, “Studying the Bible.” He was surprised, shocked, and somewhat curious. Why hadn’t they tried to hide their Bible? and they answered his questions with honest answers. They also invited him to their church.

He Goes To Church

Cook was curious but not enough to pursue a look into church. They hadn’t downplayed their beliefs in a hugely gay affirming place. Not only that, but he was curious why they hadn’t? He was used to Christians hiding their beliefs and being shy about them. Sunday morning he pulled himself out of bed and got himself to the church. The people were lively, engaged, and intent. He tried to be invisible but, yet, he went to the side for prayer. He was expecting old people, but younger people filled the pews.

Decision Time

Becket Cook knew this was real. The people weren’t playing a game. The words spoke clearly. He just knew. That day at the end of the service he turned over his walk to Christ. He became a born-again Christian. No longer did he feel confused. He was ALIVE in Christ. He became authentically real. He was so excited that he told others continually about Christ, and his belief in Christ. He chose to walk the walk of a committed person of faith. His life abruptly changed. He told his folks in Texas that he had made a dramatic and consequential decision for Christ. He spoke boldly and still does. I listen to him a couple of times a week. Yes, it’s hard work in a hostile environment, but he doesn’t complain.

Becket Cook’s Advice

I have listened to a few converted former-homosexuals give their testimonies. His testimony is real and genuine. He doesn’t try to impress others with his words. He speaks to draw them into his world so that they may see the truth. He speaks while he encourages. I was skeptical at first. It was normal to be skeptical for we don’t know how much he will say nor do we know how much he will strive to get our attention. However, he’s the real deal. He speaks the truth in love. Oh how we need this. He’s kind but he’s also direct. I’ve watched many of his speaking engagements. He cares and it shows.

God bless you, him, and everyone.

If you have a moment…

Looking Backward In Order to Look Forward

I didn’t know what I was doing but I did know where I would look. God had the answers but I did not. My life was different now. We’d been here before but this time I knew there was no forgiveness. It was late, The kids were in bed. I asked him if he had been going out on me. He said, “Yes.” We both knew it was over, and we both cried. The next morning he would tell the kids. The kids were Josh, at a Christian college in Oregon, LaVonne, a senior in high school, Thomas, taking his driver’s test, Forrest, in fifth grade, and Glorianne, in preschool. I dreaded the next day.

We got up the next morning. I said we weren’t going to church. He came and told them. Then left. Thomas missed the moment. He came afterward and his dad told him before he left. I looked out, and the kids had their arms around each other, crying. They came in and it all came out. We never returned to being a whole family again. The next few years were terribly hard except for a few rare moments though they were good.

I decided to write in a journal to help sort my thoughts and find a measure of healing. I wanted to learn. I wanted to know what happened. I wanted to find a measure of peace. At first, I wrote my thoughts and concerns. In time, I added quotes, verses, prayers, and bits of advice I wanted to keep. I spent a lot of time writing. Eventually I spoke in my church. It was like five years later. I talked two Sundays. The first session was about Pain. The second was about Healing. You can listen to them here on my blog under testimonies.

Why am I writing this?

Three days ago I grabbed my stack of journals and started reading the first one. I read it for three days. I finished it. I was amazed. I used to think I wasted people’s time when I mentioned them. But now I don’t think so. How do people get through the hard times? They persevere. They don’t give up. They keep on trying. That is, if they want to get better. You persevere. There’s a lot or other stuff too. I’m still learning. I’m still growing. Want to know something else? Neither of us has married again.

What kind of advice do I share?

Besides the normal stuff, I think you should pick someone who has values you agree with. If you’re a believer, pick a believer. Find someone you respect, and who respects you. Pray. God knows. You can be toooo picky, though. But, too, you need to be picky. It you’re a Christian believer, you will want Christian advice. However, I’m not going to give any advice other than to direct you where you should look.

So much I wish for you a solid, pleasing, real, happy step. But. But you must choose the right kind of step. We can get our step mixed up to where we intentionally or unintentionally are picking something that seems right because it satisfies but it draws attention back to yourself. We want to focus our attention on God, and God alone. God brings us to see things His way, to heal His way, to learn His way, to change His way. If we guide our attention and other’s attention to what He is doing then, and only then, He is given the credit for what healing is taking place.

People go wrong and don’t realize it.

They make choices that brings the thing back to themselves and think they’re right, but they’re not. Are we giving it to God or are we setting ourselves as the righteous judge? God speaks, we must listen. God heals, we are set free. God brings us forward so that we may shine His truth to all we meet. His word speaks to all who listen, regardless. How beautiful that He reaches out to us in this way. He gives hope, life, and healing. We receive His blessing beyond measure; His grace beyond our wildest dreams; His hope beyond what even seems possible. His way is the best way. Does He get the credit or you?

Make sure you direct others to God. He will make a way.

Go with God!

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A Positive Heart-Warming Story 

J. Williams  8/8/2020 

Home after a very adventurous, longer-than-normal journey. A boat. A taxi. A plane. A dead battery. 😬 Not what I expected when arriving at the parking structure at the Sacramento airport. But the unscheduled inconvenience was good because it meant I got to meet C______. The AAA guy. He was kind and funny and after listening for a bit I learned that 2 weeks from tomorrow will be 4 years since his beautiful wife, L__, passed away. Cancer. He misses her so. I told him about D_____, 4 years for us, too. In the space of an hour we shared our common ground. Losing someone you love. He was sure his beautiful bride, only 43, was in a better place. He told me, ‘Ya know, she has a new body.’ I knew then that he knew Him. We rejoiced over this truth as he changed the battery on the Grandma J___ beach van. ‘Ok, start her up!’ Oh, such relief to hear that engine turn over. A two hour delay but I am quite sure all scheduled by the One who holds the map. We said our goodbyes and he paused… ‘You know, there is a spirit around you. A spirit of peace and calm and joy. You have an aura around you.’ That is Jesus, my new friend, C______. Isn’t He amazing?

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