The Shaming of Christmas

A CONTEMPORARY SCROOGE?. . .

I am visiting with a friend, a concierge at a local business establishment, when she comments,

Employees here have been told to not greet anyone with “Merry Christmas” unless the customer says it first, because, according to the powers-that-be, “Happy Holidays” is the most universally accepted greeting.

She responded to Management, “That stinks.” Her boss said, “I know. I agree. But I’m just doing my job.” I think Santa is going to have some trouble. “HO HO HO, Happy Holidays!” doesn’t quite cut it. It doesn’t have the same ring to it.

Is saying “Merry Christmas” a thing of the past? It is a sad day when we are forbidden to greet people with a relaxed  “Merry Christmas.” A whole generation will not know the quiet beauty found in this simple, delightful, well-wishing, unselfish form of blessing.

I ask, what is wrong with everyone having the right to voice their own preference? Acceptance should split two ways. If I can accept your preference as yours, why can’t you accept my preference as mine? Why does one preference have to dominate the other as superior? One shouldn’t prevail over the other. This speaks of bias and a culture of superiority. Those who do not wish to say “Merry Christmas” may return the greeting with their preferred greeting, “Happy Holidays.”

I find that I am the most distressed with how fearful we’ve become;  fearful of the media and the social watch dogs who are quick to judge and attack; and, the other more frightening aspect,  a legitimate concern that anything they say or do is litigious. There is also the bad publicity; name calling is s frightful business and can skew public perception and opinion.

Indeed, something is wrong when our freedoms are compromised because of someone else’s freedoms. Saying “Merry Christmas” or displaying it in a store should be acceptable as a preference  even if a person doesn’t happen to like using it. It is part of our tradition and culture. But, I  can see why it is an issue, businesses are afraid of the label and being targeted, so they adjust accordingly. I could write a book “The shaming of Christmas.” It has been a progression. We are becoming self-conscious when we say it in public now.  It feels like we’re trying to make a point, when really, we just like the happy form of greeting. It’s crazy. Our social mentality has made us think in such a way that we are put on the fence about something that is totally not necessary. It is truly ironic when you think about it. Historically, some Christians chose to not display Christmas trees because of their origin in pagan societies that existed before Christ. It was their choice.

The hatred and name calling needs to stop—on both sides. True acceptance of others as equal individuals will surmount race, age, religion, political, social and cultural biases.

I guess the concierge’s expression has hit a nerve. I felt a sadness as she spoke. I know there are people who would appreciate hearing the greeting, “Merry Christmas.” The annoyance with it is not universal.

I want to bring us back to the happy side and make a wistful yet happy declaration.—Let us be “merry.” The word “merry” is cheerful. A merry heart is good medicine to the soul. We are giving a blessing to someone when we say, “Merry Christmas.” Be merry today. I’m serious.

May I wish you, with fondness, a “Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

Blessings to all.

Norma

P. S. May civility return.

 

Mother Teresa and the Spirit of Thanks-Giving

In this life we cannot do great things. We can only do small things with great love.

In Her Own Words, quotes by Mother Teresa   http://www.slideshare.net/PAAVANJ/mother-teresa-slide-show-by-paavanj

Thanksgiving is a powerful concept. Thanks and giving are two outwardly focused ways of being. Giving because we all have something to give. Being thankful for what we have and what is our good fortune. Some take this further. Thanks and giving is their life’s mission.

I think of Mother Teresa. She gave to the poorest of the poor.

Mother Teresa is the epitome of thanks + giving. There are few people equal to Mother Teresa with her on-going legacy that continues to replicate through the Sisters of Charity. Mother Teresa truly gave out of a heart full of love. She saw worth and value in the outcasts. She says it better than I, so I leave you with a slide show that gives us something to ponder. The words of Mother Teresa always grip my heart because I see humanity with its suffering, and I see a heart that loves out of its Christ-love. He, also, loved the “least of these.”

Mother Teresa slide show by Paavanj : In Her Own Words.
http://www.slideshare.net/PAAVANJ/mother-teresa-slide-show-by-paavanj