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Books I’ve Been Reading

Books I’ve Been Reading as of Late

I tend to read a variety of books, mostly religious non-fiction. Like entrées at a smorgasbord, each book brings something of delight. I like to delve into a book with an open mind as much as possible. I sort as I go. Almost always I find a statement that makes me pause and consider its meaning and possible ramifications. For me, I find hidden nuggets in the way an author portrays their philosophy on life or the spiritual. These are the bits of wisdom that stay with me.

Here is what I’ve been reading over the past month or two. I’m sharing these with you for no other reason than the idea hit me front and center as something you might like to know.  A couple of these books may make their way into one of the book reviews featured on this blog. The links to Amazon are associate links.

The Joyful Christian by C. S. Lewis

This book is a compilation of 127 short readings taken from other C.S. Lewis books. I read an entry when I am in the mood for another one, usually late at night. Many of his books are familiar to me, and I recognize their text, but I like rehashing their content in my mind. I enjoy their wit, insight, and diversity.  The Joyful Christian

 

You Are What You Love by James K. A. Smith

This is a self-examination book on looking at what you do and why you do it. The author likens our routines and pleasures to liturgies we perform on a frequent basis. His emphasis is on worship of God. The reader is taken to task about their own practices and loves in a thoughtful way. This is an interesting read that will make you think. You Are What You Love

 

God’s Work in Satan’s Playground by Dick Buck

I’m reading a chapter per day through this book. It is written by veteran missionary Dick Buck. My sister spent one summer with the Bucks in the ’70s, which is how I came to know of them. Dick and Mavis are of retirement age, and have “retired” but still live and serve in Bahia, Brazil. This is the story of their life’s work. Dick Buck’s sense of humor is evident on each page, and his care and service speak volumes. He was a journalist before he became a missionary. I had a visit with the two of them in 2017, and their energy and enthusiasm for their work and life is remarkable. God’s Work in Satan’s Playground

 

The Case for Easter by Lee Strobel

This is a short book that can be read in one sitting. Strobel explores the reasoning and proofs to support the resurrection of Christ. He meets some of the debaters, who, with biblical apologetics, defend and explain how, with certainty, Jesus’ death and resurrection can be substantiated by historical, biblical, and intellectual, evidence and rational. It is an informative read, written to explore Strobel’s own questions and skeptical thinking prior to his conversion. I was challenged by its content and eager to know more about apologists he mentioned like William Lee Craig and Gary Habermas.

As an aside, I intend to listen to some of their debates, like Bill Craig’s debate with Christopher Hitchens, the avowed atheist and author of God is not Great, a book that challenged my thinking as I contemplated defense of my faith. You might want to read that one; it will shake you up. He’s convincing in his arguments and has little respect for Christian belief and makes it all sound rather silly and ridiculous. That is why believing people are helped by books that defend the faith like The Case for Easter.

 

Churches That Abuse by Ronald M. Enroth

Churches that abuse come in every stripe and color. This book has been around awhile but it applies to most cults and congregations that are led by a minister/spiritual leader who uses power and control to manipulate and isolate his/her members from family, outsiders, and those outside their ranks. Abuse comes in many forms such as mind control, relational controls, financial control, sexual, physical, mental and emotional control. These leaders assume a god-like supremacy over their followers, unsuspecting followers who are willing or forced into compliance. The book’s true stories are sobering and heartbreaking. The book sounds a warning, to be wary, to be careful before you join; if you aren’t careful you could be misled (many professionals are taken in), it may be a cult, and it may well destroy your family unit, your faith in humanity, and your belief in a loving God. Churches That Abuse

 

Be Still and Listen by Amos Smith

Amos Smith contacted me to review his new book,, a book released a couple of days ago. I thoroughly enjoyed, absorbed, this book. It speaks to the need for a quiet joining with God in the quiet of meditation and contemplation. This book seeks to wrap the reader in the warm embrace of a loving God. The book’s purpose and message resounds deeply with me.  It is not written from an evangelical perspective, I wouldn’t want to mislead you, but its core message is universal, for all true believers in God. Religious people will be challenged to do something about their spiritual lethargy when it comes to interactive time spent with God. Be Still and Listen

 

A Light in the Window by Jan Karon

This is the second book in Jan Karon’s Mitford series, a group of fictional tales that act like an antidote to big-city living. Here we follow an Episcopal priest in a series of events in this “little town with the big heart.” My Book Lunch ladies are reading the first two books in this series. Philosophy comes in as it is interwoven throughout the story arc. This is fun reading.  A Light in the Window.

 

10 People Every Christian Should Know by Warren W. Wiersbe

I’ve always enjoyed Warren Wiersbe. I heard him speak when I was in college. He is joyful.  This book is a summary of ten of the greats: M. Henry, J. Edwards, J.H. Newman, J.B. Lightfoot, J. H. Taylor, C. H. Spurgeon, D.L. Moody, A. Carmichael, O. Chambers,and  A. W. Tozer. This little book is like a resource book. Warren tells what he appreciates about their ministry, what they added to the Christian conversation, then he gives a list of further reading one can access. He also mentions where he differs from them, but in a factual, kind way. Wiersbe also has a book of 50 Christians every Christian should know. 10 Christians Every Christian Should Know

Of all these books, only one did I purchase, as amazing as that sounds. I had the distinct privilege of selecting what I wanted from my former pastor’s personal library when he retired. What an opportunity! He gave me first crack at it. I was modest in my choices knowing this was an offer he had extended to one other as well. I had to think of where I would shelve them, too. Thank you, Pastor Pete. Two of these books came to me via that route. One book is on loan to me from my present pastor. We’re going to discuss it at a later date. Life is interesting.

So there you have it, what I do in my spare time.  Summer is a great time to read. Grab an iced tea, pull out the patio lounge chair, and dig in. Happy reading.

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The book dinner list will be posted next week.

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Leadership Rewards, Pitfalls, and Accountability

So You Want to be a Leader

The ability to lead is a cultivated skill. Leading is natural with some, and it is developed by others. Individuals who aspire to lead and those already in leadership roles will have common ground. True leaders display some similarities and various commonalities.

For you, I will convey what I have learned and experienced in church leadership roles and in my past professional capacity as an elementary school teacher and as a district reading specialist. I like to plan, and I like to think through the best ways to communicate concepts to those I am leading. This blog represents my observances about the ins and outs of effective, positive leadership.

5 Rewards of Leading

  1. Vision and Big Picture Goals – One of the most exciting parts about leading is the leader gets to lead people toward their own vision of what is ahead and what is important for all of them to accomplish together. A leader’s primary goal may be outside the box of conventional wisdom or it may be internal within the normalized expectation. Leaders get to lead the charge, open the door, find the way, prepare for the journey, and mentor and develop, direct and redirect, the group. Soon they and their team will know what to expect and whether to continue on the quest. Having a support system who believes in them as a leader is a boost that will help them get started. The venture must have an object. The object must address a need. And the need fulfills a purpose.
  2. Accomplishments and Success – As a leader, you’re going to meet with limited success or maybe a lot of success. Success may come in the form of learning something new or living out a dream. Accomplishment is part of the step-by-step process that leads to the completion of an idea. Accomplishments may be big or little, and they keep the leader in the game, trudging on or sailing through, whatever. Once you are a leader, you will be leading others, so it pays to be clear on your objectives and your expectations. Personally, I think the highest form of accomplishment is when you have served others with something they can use to improve their lives. Build up. Be objective. Handle adversity in a dignified way. Be proactive in addressing problems and without belittling others. Mentor eager minds and take the time to put life and health into the people you work with. Later on you will see these same people making good decisions that relate back to your influence in their lives. This is one of the greatest joys of leading.
  3. Team Players and Followers – Excitement builds when your team comes together and you begin to mold them into a working unit. There’s buy-in and there’s equality in this scenario. Everyone has a part to play, but it is part of the whole. As a leader, you must treat all members with respect and fairness. This can be difficult, but you will find a way when you are working towards the same goal. This falls apart when team members are not valued well or equally. In leadership, be sure to acknowledge your support base and your followers. They deserve your appreciation and care. Put thought into what you do. Your team will love you for it.
  4. Networking and Mentoring – A leader cannot succeed without an ability to network with others and mentor their own team members. Once in awhile a leader will experience a rising star from one of their mentees. This person will surpass the leader and make their own trail and create their own following. For the leader, this can be bittersweet. A true leader will realize this is not about them; this is about changing the world one person at a time. Some of a leader’s dreams are deeply personal. They become public when the leader begins to influence others and build something sustainable. Leaders need others, and others need leaders. When these people find each other and something synergistic occurs, there is no stopping its progress.
  5. Achievement, Influence, and Satisfaction – You can look back at life and know its value by the lives you’ve touched. Leaders are given opportunities to make a difference in an individual life and many lives. One of the surprising sides to this is the way a humble leader can be well-loved and not realize they are loved. Most people are insecure in some fashion. A good leader will not cut corners and will not abuse their power of influence. Leading is a gateway to having a voice, which is a platform from where they will speak their truth. This provides amplification of their message and also influences others in a multiplicity of ways. The voice of a leader will influence in some way, either good, or bad, or in-between. Satisfaction comes during the process of refining the vision and bringing it to fruition. Dreams become realities. Realities impact. A life can be changed or the world can be changed. Both matter and are of consequence.

5 Costs to Leaders

  1. Time – As a leader, you’re going to work overtime and on your own dime. You will spend time with your team members, planning and talking, considering new ideas and effective ways to approach people, change, programs etc. You will be called to action, when you are tired, weary, upset, angry, sick, and distressed; but that’s part of leadership. Leading is about giving, and giving liberally of self (but not unwisely). You go where the need is and take the time it takes. That is a cost a leader must grapple with; is it worth it?
  2. Money – A leader is going to spend money out of their own pocket; it goes with the territory. You can spend quite a bit and no one knows but you, but you do it willingly because you believe in what you’re doing and its end result. You learn to be wise in your spending. You’re going to give gifts to people who deserve them. You’re going to buy materials for your meetings and the people in attendance. You’re going to buy food and pick up the tab, and do what needs to be done, and do it without complaining. You just do it. Appreciate your people. You see a need, and you fill it.
  3. Misunderstandings – Friends, co-workers, board members, outsiders, team members and others will take issue with you, disagree with your ideas, and find fault with your ways. Be thorough, be kind, be honest, be fair, be trustworthy. Seek to restate the issue and address the need. Validate people. There is a reason they are feeling the way they feel. Find out what this is. Be creative. Pay attention. Then go home and relax in a hot tub or eat a bowl of your favorite ice cream! Mine is mint chocolate chip. Hint, hint. . .
  4. Fall-out in relationships – You will lose a few rounds, and a few relationships. Whether friends or co-workers, people will disagree with you, attack you; they will resent your successes and hold this against you. Be the bigger person. Extend grace and do not retaliate. Be strong, and be dispassionate. State your case, add supporting details, and then leave it there. This is not the time to be emotional (if you can forbear). Lead with your thinking, not with your emotions. This is the hardest one for me, I’ve had some real doozies that ruined some of my vacations (hurt by accusations from people I trusted). Usually they correct themselves a year or two later; and I’ve wisened up. Leading is complicated. You win some, and you lose some. Sometimes you’re right and sometimes they’re right. And sometimes there is no “right.”
  5. Discouragement – When your vision falls short or the area you’ve been leading collapses or falls victim to a change in leadership and their new plans, you must muster up the courage to carry on and keep your dignity in place. I’ve had this happen a few times. It is human nature to start worrying, feel dejected and down, and before you know it,  you’re slipping into discouragement and despair. When the finances, or business, or payments, fall short, you begin to hyperventilate and then the worrying becomes a full-time job. Don’t stay there. It will cost you your happiness and joy. Counter it with aids to healing. Call your trusted friends. Work it through by sorting thought from feeling. Ask yourself, what is true about this, and what is not true about this. Meditating is a real help when you’re discouraged. Prayer helps too. Good friends are like gold when you’re discouraged.

5 Challenges for Spiritual Leaders

  1. Spiritual authenticity and accountability – This has to be spot-on. Spiritual leaders must do it God’s way, not the world’s way. If you don’t get this one right you may as well hang it up. God’s work must be offered openly, kindly, truthfully, lovingly, and thoughtfully. Truth without love will undermine the effort. God needs authentic Christians who march to his tune, not carbon copy, repetitive editions.
  2. Moral values, appropriate conduct, and accountability – Place God’s values into your mind, heart, and soul. Be accountable to God, first. You might find an accountability partner you can trust with your stuff. ‘Love the Lord’ is the greatest advice I can give to anyone. Make sure your judgments and desires are in alignment with the guidelines of scripture. Appropriate boundaries facilitate this process.
  3. Financial astuteness and accountability – This is uber important. Don’t manipulate the finances or overspend. Be wise. Be forthcoming, transparent, and put people and measures in place to keep your group prudent financially. Establish specific fiscal processes that protect your group’s finances from being accessed and abused. Properly vett the treasurer of your organization. Being a nice guy is not good enough. Christian organizations can be naive and way too trusting. Limit the opportunity for misuse of funds.
  4. Relational sensitivity and accountability – Here it gets more complicated. Whether church members, family members, people in other related organizations, or people we meet on the street, some sort of relational dynamic is always at work. It pays to be cognizant of the relational dynamics within your organization. Relational problems should be addressed in a safe environment. This takes wisdom and skill. Leaders can be caught up in a relationship triangle and not even know it. Being over-powered or neglected is not much fun. As a leader, you must address these problems when they manifest themselves in your organization. “Best interest” is the model I use. The “best interest” of the group is when the individuals work together to come up with a solution to the problem. It works best when addressed equally by all those involved.
  5. Common sense and spiritual discernment – The ability to reason is a quality needed in every leader. A person must be able to figure out workable ways to accomplish the tasks before them. It pays dividends to be well-thought-out and fully aware of both pros and cons. For the Christian leader there must also be spiritual discernment. This means the leader must be able to figure out the will of God in the choices being considered. Pushing an agenda may have disastrous effects if God is not in it. How do we discern such things? Spiritual discernment is linked to the fervent prayer of a righteous person. I don’t believe it is a gut feeling. Common sense, however, is being sensible and conducting oneself in a reasonable manner. In church work, leaders should beware of the pitfalls (which come with the territory!) i.e. self-pride and pride in accomplishments/ buildings/ programs/ organizations etc., self-glory, manipulation of others, and anything that focuses on them more than on God.

In Conclusion

Those are my lists. I’ve experienced all of them to some degree or other, in churches and in places of employment. Leaders like leading. I like leading. Leaders are servants. Servant-leaders serve those whom they are leading. Christ was the Shepherd leading his sheep. He took care of the sheep, protected the sheep, provided for the sheep, and loved his sheep. Christ is our example of a leader who knew what he was about, led in purity, with goodness, and because of love. So should we.

My Qualifications for Writing this Post

CHURCH LEADERSHIP EXPERIENCES

Women’s Ministry Director; Pageant Writer and Director; Choir Director, Centennial Celebration Event Planner; Active church leader 35 years; Awana Club Leader; Christian Education Director; Worship Team; Sunday School Teacher for adults and children.

PUBLIC SCHOOL LEADERSHIP EXPERIENCES

School Site Council; RtI School Coordinator; Supervisor of Instructional Aides; Student Study Team Member & Recorder; Bully Prevention Team Leader; G.A.T.E. Coordinator; D.I.B.L.E.S. Assessment Coordinator; Interventions Leader; District Leadership Team; Reading Specialist.