The Examine and Me

Read the following five statements before you lay down at night. Consider them closely. deeply, and reflectively. Pray for God’s wisdom and guidance. Commit the following day to God. Actively wait. Watch what happens. You may be surprised.

Let’s say, you aren’t exactly sure how to approach God. Well, you can learn from others. Take St. Ignatius of Loyola, a Spanish priest and theologian. He understood the dailyness of walking the faith. He had a simple habit he prayed each night. It was the last thing he did before retiring. He prayed the prayer I wrote down. Of course, he spent some time on each thought. His walk grew and changed the more he grew and changed. He was grounded in word and worship as he daily partook of the grace God gave him.

The Examine: Pray Each Evening

  1. Ask God to be with you.
  2. Recall events of the day for which you feel grateful.
  3. Do a review of the day.
  4. Ask forgiveness for any sins.
  5. Ask for grace to follow grace more closely the following day.

The Examine was formed and followed each day by St. Ignatius long ago (1500’s). It was his habit. The last thing he did each day was he would review his day, thinking through his actions, thoughts, struggles and blessings. He’d look closely each day so that the next day he might be all that he should desire to be. Her wanted to be all that God wished he would be.

The History of the Examine

Was it easy? No. Was it worth while? Yes. His life reflected his walk with God. God was his strength. He learned from God. His life was an example to his brothers and to the world at large. He was intent on doing his life the way God wanted him to live it. There were many men who followed him as monks in the ecclesiastical home, but that didn’t make it easier. Every day there are problems to solve. People who need help. Things to do. But God makes a difference when you rely on Him.

St, Ignatius lived a life that was remarkable. He experienced God in an unusual way. Before he had a remarkable conversion, he was quite taken with impressing others and drawing attention to himself with his dress and weapons. Then God got a hold of him. He gave his outfit away. He lived poor and on the gifts or help of others. He spent hours. I mean hours in prayer and so forth. He was a literally changed man.

Taking the Examine to Heart

I started reading about St. Ignatius back in 2008. A couple of years later I wrote his prayer on a slip of paper so that I might recite it every night. During this time I read some of the great authors of the church beyond my baptist training. I was surprised and taken aback by the depth I found in Chesterton, Ignatius, St. Thomas and others. I realized I had been blind out of ignorance. Back in the day there was so much I had been closed to learning. Mistakingly I believed the only sincere Christians were evangelicals. I couldn’t have been more wrong. I learned much about paying attention to the gist of their writings even though I held a somewhat different view. You can do this too.

Christians need to get their eyes off the ways they do Christian work. We can learn a bunch of things that we never gave much thought to. If we all give a measure of good thought to the ways of Christ, we would grow and develop hearts that are close to things of God. It’s so beautiful to draw near to God, then God draws near to us. We can learn much from God. The more we draw upon Him, the more we understand and cherish the things we know and learn from Him. These things are close to our soul.

Cherish These Things…Always

God will be with you. You may not be aware of Him now, but He is active and concerned about you and your welfare. You may be in one of those times when you feel lonely and think you are all alone, but God is there. He cares, helps and heals. You can call out to Him, and He will come. Maybe not the moment you call, but He is with you. I’m so glad He is with me and you.

Speak Truth with Love

If you have been a part of the local church for all or most of your adult years, you have heard the comment about how we are to answer difficult questions. Especially when question is a biblical one. We’ve been told to answer with love and truth. At times we answer the questions quite well. But other times, we don’t do so well. We tend to be heavy on the love and carefully mention the truth. We get a little scared about truth, that is, if the truth is a uncomfortable one. But all of us must know the truth or we are giving an incomplete message.

I don’t know about you, but I think most people want to hear the truth. We must be gentle with the truth. And we need to be wise in how we say the truth. It takes a gentleness with holiness to speak the truth in love. However, there is a careful way to bring the two concepts, love and truth, together. First, let’s take a look at love, to figure out what love looks like in a spiritual format. Then let’s look at truth and why it’s important to emphasize it, as well. We need to have a clear understanding of both, love and truth.

I always loved. Maybe you were that way too. The German way was to show it rather than say it. I didn’t hear the word ‘love’ said often, but it was there, always. I just always knew that I was loved by my parents and by my siblings. Not everyone is a lucky as I was. They may live many years without knowing that they are loved. I remember going on this date back in my single days and the guy didn’t believe me when I said my parents loved me. They rarely said it, and he didn’t believe it. We only went out one time, but I’ve never forgotten what he said. It was really kind of hard to explain what I meant.

How Shall We Answer People?

Love is more of a presence. You can feel whether a person loves you or not. Love shows in a myriad of ways. It goes the extra mile. It does the extra courtesy. It seeks to help, and it does more than expected. It even bears hard burdens. Real love is noticeable. However, love doesn’t always make the journey easier or better. Some people will walk all over the kind person and not even think about it. It is one of those things that is not always dished back. Just because you love doesn’t mean you’ll be loved back. But love anyway.

Truth, though, has an imperceptible but good quality. To hear truth in a right way means it must be given out of love. What do I mean? Let me explain it this way. Truth is easy to disregard as unimportant. Some truth is hard to accept. People do not want the truth if it disregards their feelings. Truth tells the truth…always. But, surely, truth must be carefully given or it will not be seen as truth or it will be uncomfortable or unclear. And sometimes truth, what is truth, is hard to hear and bear. But if you speak the truth in love it is easier to understand and accept.

How Do We Combine Love with Truth?

Some things take much time and effort. I think speaking truth, what is true, is easier to accept when love is present. People lie all the time, and I get that. But you don’t need to. Speak the truth in love in a difficult situation. When it matters, it makes a difference. Even when it doesn’t matter, it makes a difference. Sometimes, you have to be quiet, and they get it. Regardless of how you feel, be truthful. Keep your thoughts to yourself, when necessary. At my father’s funeral (age 93) I learned something about him that I didn’t realize. It was told by one of my siblings. He said that my father would leave the room and go to another room when the talk gravitated to someone’s ‘wrong’ behavior. He preferred not to hear it, and by leaving the room he chose to not hear it. That impressed me. What a good way to be. I wish I’d figured that one out.

Really, it pays to figure it out. As I have grown older I am becoming more able to live in love and truth. Partly because I am more at peace with myself. I’m not so afraid about speaking truth now. Like a mixed salad, it tastes richer and fuller when it has more types of veggies in it. Truth is better when mixed with love. The two go hand in hand together. If you overdo the one, it becomes noticeable. Our personalities differ and we will tend to go one way or the other but we do best when both truth and love are present. True love and true truth are best when they are together. We need truth and we need love. Period. If we know the truth we are more certain to walk in it. The same with love.